Pressure to be the perfect parent has left six out of ten parents feeling low and depressed, according to new research. 

A surprising one and ten parents experience these feelings on a daily basis too, says the survey by new parenting website yano.co.uk. 

The survey has lifted the lid on life for British parents, revealing that concerns about ‘the right way to parent’ are a huge burden on a majority of families in Britain today.

Rivalry and comparison add to the situation, with more than two-thirds of parents saying they compare their parenting style to others’.  And despite relying on friends and family for advice, a quarter of parents say friends and family add to their parenting worries and rows, by making them feel they are doing a bad job.

Dr. Penelope Leach, Psychologist and parenting expert comments: “The roles we women are expected to fill – mother, partner, worker, daughter, sister – are an overload for almost everyone. One mum told me her life was like being on a tightrope: gloriously exciting when all went well and completely disastrous if the least thing went wrong. A child being ill or a childminder taking a day off was enough to bring her whole life crashing down.”

Parenting expert Liz Fraser says: ‘The competitive parenting thing is so destructive. It’s strange that a subject that should be so bonding and human and one for which the sisterhood should really pull together, can be so hurtful too. I have wonderful mum friends who I go to, to talk about parenting. You need good friends who can laugh and say “this is a bit of a nightmare isn’t it?” If someone is pushy and competitive I say you don’t need them in your life.’

Whilst mothers perhaps unsurprisingly tend to worry the most, fathers were not far behind with 50 per cent admitting to feeling low or depressed about not being ‘the perfect parent’.  

46 per cent of parents admit to buying their children gifts such as toys and clothes to make themselves feel that they are doing a good job.  A further 38 per cent say they pay for expensive activities or extra tuition or sports coaching in their quest to be the ‘perfect’ parent.

Ann-Marie McKimm, co-founder of Yano comments: “Our site sets out to give modern parents fresh thinking on parenting that allows and encourages them to make up their own minds about what’s best – and hopefully trust their own judgement, rather than worrying they’re doing it wrong.” 


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