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Virginity Dilemma

Zindl writes:

I best start at the beginning.... Back in 2007, my doctor wanted to find out why i was having heavy periods. I had an ultrasound and the nurse thought that she had found something in the lining of the neck of my womb. About a month later, i had to undergo some sort of surgery to see if there was anything there (i had a suspected polyp.) Results came back all clear.... But that it not what i am on here about... I am left with... a moral dilemma (its a dilemma for me) I haven't had a partner ( if you know what i mean) ever. Obviously in the medical sense... i'm not a virgin... But man wise... I am a virgin... What am i? I'm so confused... What do i say to a future partner? If i say i'm a virgin... and... we have sex... and whatever happens to virgin when she loses it doesn't happen, he is gonna feel that i mislead him and will hurt him... I just need some advice Thanks

Yin's Answer

Zindi Hi This is any easy question to answer in reality, athough your hymen may have been broken during the medical procedure there is no doubt you are a virgin.

In many cases when a girl loses her virginity for the first time there is no bleeding, in reality most hymen will have been broken during activities such as gynastics or horse riding.

You are a virgin so stop worrying

Yang's Answer

Zindi I agree, you are too young to be worrying about this I think too much is put on being a virgin ask yourself how many guys are virgins when they settle down in a relationship.

You are a virgin I hope this is of help to you

Lesbian Desires

julie writes:

i am 47 years old i have 2 children 13 and 24 i have a boyfriend i have know him for 13 month i have a fantasy about having sex with a other women I am happy with my boyfriend we have spoke about it and he said go for it this is my first time please advise me what do i feel nervous not sure where to start thankyou

Yin's Answer

Its just a case of your sex life and possibley your life in general becoming routine and lacking variety. Is this something you will actually carry out or will it remain just a fantasy.

If you do go ahead with it then either look in the dating sections of your local newspapers, or join a dating site for same sex couples, and treat it like any other dating. Just be clear in your own mind what you want from any meetings and ensure that the other person is happy to be in the same type of relationship.

I would caution though that once you do it there is no taking it back so consider the potential effect it may have on you current relationship

Yang's Answer

Julie I must say this is a strange relationship you are in with this guy, but honestly if he is unconcerned with the idea of you having another relationship then my advice is to ship him out fast.

Its no wonder that you are having fantasies of affairs with other women, you must be craving excitment.

I myself am bi so go for it and don't tie you life down with someone to dozy to appreciate a sexy fun loving woman

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