Anonymous asks:

My 22 year old still lives at home. 

They think it's acceptable to come and go as they please. 

They are not asked to do any jobs around the house except for one thing which is to keep their bedroom tidy and put the clothes away that I have washed. 

I have other youngsters who have been woken up by the 22 year coming in at 7.30am after a night out. 

My partner gets up at 5sm, but the 22 year old brings in a friend at midnight and starts talking and laughing in the living room underneath our bedroom. 

They said they were quiet but we can hear muffled voices.

When I tried to explain it was too late, they got so defensive. And it's her bedroom, she can do what she wants. Am I being unreasonable?


Sex and relationship expert Jessican Leoni said: “You are facing the kind of annoying disruption that pretty much every parent with a lively 22-year-old daughter faces. Yes, she is being selfish. Yes, she needs to grow up. Yes, she should keep the noise down when you and your partner need to sleep. But weren’t you the same when you were 22? I do think you need to take a chill pill and cut your daughter a little slack. Her behaviour is annoying but I am sure that she has a sensible and loving mum and, over time, she will grow up and realise how selfish she was when she was in her early 20s and she will want to make it up to her mum who was so patient with her when she really didn’t deserve such tolerance. Don’t drive your daughter away by being too heavy handed over her behaviour.

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“It sounds to me that you are a patient and tolerant woman, which is why you have written to me seeking advice rather than jumping in with both feet and causing a rift with your daughter. I would suggest carrying on biting your lip unless your daughter’s behaviour really does go beyond the pale when she will see that you were right to call her out. I know it is frustrating putting up with all this disruption but things will improve as she grows up, and family harmony is more important than scoring points off a young woman at a tricky age when we all make mistakes.”

Jessica is a sex and relationship expert for the dating site, 

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